A term I never heard when I was growing up has become normal.
I hear the question over and over, what’s wrong with today’s kids? What’s wrong with 2022? Why so much anxiety?
Did anyone stop to wonder what is anxiety in fact.
Intense, excessive, and persistent worry and fear about everyday situations. Fast heart rate, rapid breathing, sweating, and tiredness.
This is what Google has to say. But let me break it down to you, as some one who has anxiety, no not the I don’t want go to school today anxiety, but the crippling painful kind that I sat on many psychiatrists’ chairs to get to the bottom of.
Some facts about someone who suffers from anxiety: 1. They need to make sure they are always hydrated, when they dehydrate the anxiety peaks.
2. They need to make sure they always eat protein, protein is key to keeping your anxiety levels calm.
3. Morning is usually the hardest and the thought of a full or even an empty day ahead can be so crippling.
4. Nights can be the hardest, the thought of, yes I survived today, but will I survive tomorrow? This is paralyzing.
5. Some people – or rather most people – with real anxiety take medication, once, twice, maybe even eight times a day. It takes weeks months and years of trial and error to find the medication that balances their hormones and finally gives them relief from themselves.
They are reliant on these blue, pink and white pills to push away the voices. Usually, after they swallow, they are ok, sometimes their body becomes immune to the Medicine and the process starts again.
6. Someone who suffers from anxiety feels actual physical pain. In their arms, legs, weights like actual heaviness all the time.
7. A person who is anxious needs sleep. We all need sleep, sure. But a person with anxiety actually loses control from being exhausted. Therapists recommend at least eight hours a night, which is not always possible and can make someone spin out of control.
8. someone with anxiety doesn’t wanna talk about it. Would you wanna talk about the voice in your head that you think is controlling you?
9. Anxiety is a sickness. It’s something given to you by Hashem, it isn’t caused by a person, place, or thing. A person, place, or thing can trigger your anxiety.
10. Until your anxiety is 100% under control you can not hold your own medication, because your anxiety will tell you to swallow the bottle.
11. There is no day off, someone with anxiety is working on themselves 24/7/12 their whole lives.
12. Last but certainly not least, anxiety is real, it’s scary, don’t keep it to yourself. Untreated anxiety can cause a person to hurt themselves or those close to them.
So now that you are a little more educated and you now understand what anxiety is, what it comes from, what you can do about it, why is everyone declaring themselves anxious in 2022.
if your child doesn’t want to go to camp, he does not have anxiety, he has homesickness. He is not suffering from anxiety. Don’t label him.
If you turn around in your late 30s early 40 and discover you’re unhappy, or regret your career choice, or the way you raised your children – that’s a mid-life crisis, you don’t have anxiety.
If your teenager needs a day off high school that’s ok, that’s very normal, don’t blame it on anxiety.
Do not blame grade, attendance, participation or attention span on anxiety. It’s not an excuse.
Now you will ask the same question everyone asks when it comes to op-eds, what do you care if they think they have anxiety?
Because we are cheapening the word so much.
Lhavdil – and you’ll excuse the comparison – but it’s like when someone cries they were physically attacked. Or the boy who cries wolf. How do we know when someone really truly needs our attention and even medical attention when anxiety has become a punchline to ever joke? It’s no joke!
There is a group of people who feel like there’s no air in their lungs, like their legs won’t hold them, and no blood runs in their veins. They don’t run away from responsibility, they are doing everything they can to be in control.
I am not signing my name because I suffer from real actual anxiety, the type no one wants to joke or talk about. It’s hard, and I don’t want people knowing.
I am also not signing because I am speaking for everyone out there who is struggling, and has been for years.