Rabbi Reuven Feinstein, Rosh Yeshiva of the Yeshiva of Staten Island, joined a growing list of notable and respected rabbis, psychologists and attorneys who have endorsed and praised the recent book “TALKING DIVORCE: A Torah-Based Guide for Navigating and Surviving Difficult Relationship Decisions,” authored by Rabbi Zalman Goldstein (“Shabbat Table Companion,” “Jewish Living Simply Explained,” “Going Kosher In 30 Days!,” “Rabbi’s Companion”). The Rosh Yeshivah wrote that Rabbi Goldstein’s comprehensive guide on the difficult topic of divorce has the potential for saving many from much heartache and grief.
Text of the Haskama
15 Marcheshvan 5782
To the Esteemed Rav Zalman Goldstein, Shlit”a
I received your upcoming book “Talking Divorce.” It is a comprehensive guide to the difficult topic of divorce. We are all aware that there has been a tremendous tragic increase of divorces in the frum world in this generation. The Torah created the divorce process to sever a marriage and sometimes even necessitated its use. Sadly, very often it is misused. Many of today’s divorces can be traced to a lack of education and understanding by one or both spouses on the basics of what marriage is about and a false illusion of what life will be like post-divorce.
In a clear concise fashion, you address each of the many thorny issues which arise from marital strife. It is clear by even a brief perusal of its many chapters that you put much effort and research into ensuring that you are presenting the Torah Hashkafah in a professional, practical, and realistic manner. Ranging from whom to consult (and just as importantly who not to consult) when a marriage is facing difficulties, to custody issues, dealing with an abusive spouse, the halachic, legal, and monetary angles are all explained.
By laying out step-by-step the reality of divorce and rationally explaining the proper attitude and approach one should have each step of the way, this guide has the immense potential of saving many from much unnecessary heartache and grief.
If even one marriage is saved, or one child is spared the torture of growing up in a broken home, it will have been well worth all your tremendous efforts.
May Hashem bentch you with much success from this and all your endeavors, and in the zechus of all your work may this guide quickly become obsolete with the coming of Moshiach Tzidkeinu.
/Sig.
About the book: Talking Divorce is a practical, down-to-earth book that gathers essential information, useful checklists, and practical guidance from rabbis, attorneys, and mental health professionals for navigating relationship breakdowns, reconciliation considerations, divorce, and life thereafter. It clears up many misconceptions, illuminates relevant halachic and civil processes, and arms readers with the knowledge needed to make sound decisions at every crossroad.
Other prominent endorsements and haskamas for the book include those from Rabbi Dr. Yitzchak Breitowitz, Rav of Kehillat Ohr Somayach, Yerushalayim, Rabbi Dr. Dovid Fox, Ph.D., Forensic and Clinical Psychologist, Director of Crisis Intervention, Trauma and Bereavement department of Chai Lifeline; Rabbi Avraham Kahan, Rosh Beis Din, Vaad Hadin V’Horaah, New City, New York; Rabbi Shais Taub, renowned lecturer, mentor, and author; David J. Lieberman, Ph.D., New York Times bestselling author and international expert on interpersonal relationships; David H. Rosmarin, Ph.D., ABPP, Associate Professor at Harvard Medical School, and founder of Center for Anxiety in New York; M. Gary Neuman, L.M.H.C., New York Times bestselling author, creator of the NeumanMethod.com, and author of Helping Your Kids Cope With Divorce the Sandcastles Way, Professor Ari Wasserman, Esq. Harvard attorney, author and noted Jewish lecturer; Ed Yisroel Susskind, Ph.D., clinical psychologist, therapist, lecturer, and noted author on marriage-related issues; Miriam Adahan, Ph.D., Clinical Psychotherapist, prolific lecturer, and author; Lisa Twerski, LCSW, author and noted lecturer on dating, marriage and domestic violence; and Rabbi Shimon Gruen, acclaimed relationship expert and author.
Talking Divorce is available at Jewish bookstores and at www.JewishLearningGroup.com (take $10 off orders of $50 or more with promo code SHOPNOW613).
It is also available as an audiobook on Audible and Amazon Kindle and Apple Books.
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Rav Feinstein is an incredible person and amazing baal middos. His finger is always on the pulse of the needs of the klall. It’s wonderful to see rabbis and professionals on all sides coming together to support Rabbi Goldstein’s ground-breaking new book and raising the alarm for the need for more education in the frum community on the topic.
Thank you Rabbi Feinstein!
Aron K.
As a mother of a child going through a miserable divorce I just want to say this book is as good as they say it is. It should be required reading for every couple going through marriage difficulties or facing/seeking a divorce. It gives a realistic and honest picture of the whole parsha including insight on getting a marriage back on track if possible and helpful checklists for deciding if/when divorce is inevitable and lays out what’s ahead for them so they can proceed from a place of knowledge instead of vague hopes, dreams, and fears. My daughter also found… Read more »