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Rabbi Schochet’s Creative Solution to Halt a Cremation

A story about Rabbi Dovid Schochet OBM, Rov of Chabad in Toronto, and how his sensitivity and creative approach helped stop the cremation of a Jewish woman. Full Story

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Rabbi Moishe Leider
February 11, 2024 2:58 pm

An excellent suggestion. Most people I have known want a cremation because they don’t want or can’t afford the expense of a funeral . Helping them with the expenses usually prevents a cremation.

Yitzchok
Reply to  Rabbi Moishe Leider
February 11, 2024 4:05 pm

True that some have an issue with the expense of burial which is a few thousand dollars more than a cremation, but many of those that I encounter have “emotional” issues – like “location” of the burial (as in the story) vs mobility of a cremation urn, or other emotional issues. Finding the “real” issue of why they want cremation by “digging” into their minds can open the door to creative solutions, as the solution in the story or possibly other solutions. The chiddush here, is that the Rov dug and find out what exactly their concern was, and then… Read more »

Such an important and painful topic !
Reply to  Rabbi Moishe Leider
February 11, 2024 4:15 pm

A vast number of Jews are cremating today because of the expenses of a plot, casket, etc. BH They will often change their mind if offered financial help. But has anyone ever had success with a lost soul who is drawn to the Eastern “religions” / avoda zorah and has left strong instructions that they must be cremated after 120 Gd Forbid.

There actually was
Reply to  Such an important and painful topic !
February 12, 2024 7:44 am

something about this in the most recent IllumiNations leaflet. The shliach in Cabo, Mexico, was faced with such a case, and eventually he was able to convince the (non-Jewish) husband to have his Jewish wife buried even though she had insisted otherwise.

I know the family
Reply to  Such an important and painful topic !
February 13, 2024 11:09 pm

I know the family. In this case money was not an issue. The expense did not matter. The issue was “relocating without her”. Once the issue was solved (that part of her, her hair, will relocate with them), they agreed to burial.

Powerful
February 11, 2024 3:01 pm

Thanks for sharing.

Thanks for sharing
February 11, 2024 7:13 pm

Nice to see how the Shliach had a close relationship with the Rov.
And that he consulted him for advise

Shaliach
Reply to  Thanks for sharing
February 13, 2024 11:23 pm

He was not intimidating because he was very humble. Everyone felt that it is easy to speak with him. Even children. He treated everyone as if they were the most important person. But what made me most comfortable asking him my questions, was that he was totally non-judgmental. As a shaliach I was able to ask him anything, any question from the most complicated to the simplest. He would thoughtfully and carefully answer each question. He never made me feel stupid even when I realized later I was asking the silliest of questions. Once I told him that I have… Read more »

Keep the stories coming
February 12, 2024 2:04 am

In addition to being a tribute to your father, we relatives get to enjoy reading stories about Uncle Dovid that we may not have heard. Thank you, Batya. Well written. Timeless advice to young rabbis.

May Rabbi Schochet's Neshama Have An Aliyah
February 12, 2024 2:00 pm

The degree to which this special man cared about the Jewish community is unheard of.

Now if only Rabbi Schochet can shake up our eibershter and not let go until he sends us moshiach.

Enough already!!!!!!

First hand account
February 14, 2024 11:18 am

I visited the Rov after he had surgery in a Manhatten hospital, and was still partially sedated. The nurse came to check to see how his mind was. A classic question they routinely ask: “Do you know where you are?” The Rov whispered, “That is exactly what Hashem asked Adam Harishon, and Hashem also asks every Jew – איכה, where are you? Do you where you are?” The nurse insisted on a “proper” answer to her question, “Rabbi, tell me do you know where you are?” The Rov answered, “South America!” (He was still partially sedated from surgery). The nurse… Read more »

Please contact me
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February 14, 2024 2:45 pm

I would love more details please call me
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