As the summer approaches, teenage girls all around the world are preparing for the summer day camp experience at Chabad Houses. After speaking with other girls about the coming summer, I’ve discovered that we share a common concern.
When looking for the right camp to work at, a requirement that many girls have is they don’t want to be a counselor for frum kids in day camps.
Because some of them can be the toughest kids to deal with.
Obviously, kids are kids, and we know that before committing to the role. We aren’t saying that we want away with any hard work when it comes to dealing with the kids. We are pointing out that we found a difference in the behavior of some of the frum and not frum kids at day camps.
When a bunk has a mix of both frum and non-frum kids, some have noticed that the frum ones are at times exceptionally rude and rowdy. They can be extremely ungrateful, with little sense of respect.
It might not be comfortable to hear this, but more than once we had parents of non-frum kids asking coming in with complaints about this “crazy kid” in the bunk who is riling everyone up.
It is very painful when this happens. Camp is about showing the beautiful and fun side of Yiddishkeit and we have very little time to do that. Not all campers actually go to a Chabad or a Jewish Day School, so this is our chance.
And then you have that one frum entitled kid in the bunk, with a yarmulke and tzitzis, acting and saying things that cause a chilul hashem.
The worst part is that the parents of the child, just don’t realize the damage their child is doing or they don’t care.
There definitely is a point in saying that 10 years from now, this rowdy frum kid will surely grow up to be a good person and will lead a beautiful, respectful life. Until then, it could be that his childhood behavior caused others not to follow in the same direction…
The point of this article is to bring awareness to the fact that we are noticing a pattern in the behavior of frum kids. Obviously, this does not apply to all, there are many exceptions. There are rowdy non-frum kids and there are wonderful frum kids who are making a Kiddush Hashem just by being themselves, but we just wanted to bring this topic to the table to discuss.
We are looking forward to a summer full of fun for the campers and the counselors.